Getting to know another human being is enthralling. It’s hard enough to figure out our own selves most of the time. When you are trying to understand someone else, it’s even more challenging. And what’s more, because everyone is always changing, it’s not like you get someone figured out and you can rest and put your feet up. But, I hope I’m not making this sound like a chore because it isn’t. People are fascinating and I love unraveling the marvelous puzzle that my husband is.
#58: Having someone to go home to after dinner with a friend April 27, 2011
I had a great dinner last night with a good friend who lives out of town. We rarely get to see each other so the rare dinner is very special. After a yummy meal and warm conversation, I had the further blessing to going home to see my husband. Ain’t friendship, love and life grand?!!!!!!!
#57: Getting Kitties Together April 25, 2011
We have new kitties! Yesterday my husband drove to Andrews Airforce Base to get two 7 month old kitties from a couple that needed to give them away due to allergies. They are sisters and are beautiful! We love them so much already. I can’t wait to get home to see them tonight.
In case you didn’t already know, kittens = love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
#56: Having Someone Love Me Despite My Irritability April 22, 2011
I have been terribly irritable these days and unfortunately, I sometimes take it out on my husband. He has been very patient, understanding and supportive, and for that I am grateful.
#55: Gone Fishing April 21, 2011
My husband’s job is related to the school system so he had Spring Break this week. He spent a lot of time doing yard work this week but I’m happy to say took a nice break yesterday and went fishing. It took us a while to get the fishing license but as soon as we received it, he was out the door to fish. He didn’t catch anything, besides some smalll children that followed him around. They were at the lake with their grandmother and she had to keep moving to follow them who followed him. Importantly, he enjoyed himself which was the whole point afterall. And that makes me happy.
#54: Another Person You Get To Figure Out April 20, 2011
We get to try to figure out who we are as people and what makes us tick. With a spouse, you get yet another human being to marvel at, ponder, and decipher. Fun, some times challenging like a difficult puzzle.
I am reading a book called Happy Yoga and the section on love says that wanting to be loved should be distinguished from loving. Wanting to be loved can feel like desperation to the other person. We project all our many wants on them and they often don’t measure up. And we don’t understand what is going on and why they are no longer that dreamy person we fell in love with. Loving is without want. It just is! Loving someone no matter whether you can figure them out or not! They just are. You just love. Try it!
#53: Walter vs. Weeds April 19, 2011
My husband is so cute. He loves being in the backyard. His latest challenge were some monstrous weeds that were attacking a cherry tree and our fence. He hacked and cut and pulled until we had 12 bags worth of cut weeds. It is a pleasure of mine to watch him out there. We love our house. I love him!
#52: He drives me to the subway every day April 15, 2011
I feel like such an old fashioned couple. I don’t drive and we have one car. He drops me off at the subway every morning and each night he picks me up. So sweet. It makes me feel so special.
#51: Caring for our home is an act of love April 14, 2011
Maybe it’s because we just bought our first house. Maybe it’s that I’m getting older. Maybe things have finally come together in terms of my getting it. But cleaning, cooking and generally caring for our home feel different to me. It struck me the other day when I was on my hands and knees with a rag scrubbing the white tiles in the foyer. They often get dirty and my first thought upon seeing them were: those are going to be a problem. But here I was on hands and knees and loving it! It was like pure love cleaning the floor, making it healthy and happy and pretty for my family. It didn’t feel like a chore but joy! Imagine that! But I think that’s where marriage and family are supposed to take you and I thank God that I am finally there!
#50: Curbing the inclination towards pettiness April 4, 2011
I can be as petty as the next girl but I don’t like it. Being married is a long-term thing. There is plenty of time to exercise pettiness. But why would you want to? Marriage is the ultimate jurisdiction to overlook the petty, and not sweat the small stuff. I learned that this weekend. Why bug your spouse about little things. The clothes that get left on the floor. OK – if it kills you, mention it. Nicely. But if it doesn’t, is it really worth ruining your weekend? These little things good and bad can buildup or tear down a marriage. If you want to keep your marriage strong, try to be a big person and leave the petty things alone.