It’s all about balance. Making life work. Making a marriage work. The balance between work and play, activity and rest, healthy foods and junk food, others and yourself. Some times it seems so hard to get it all in. I find myself at the end of the day wanting more hours. Trying to take care of myself and taking care of everyone else. I see that if I don’t take care of myself, I won’t be able to do much for anyone else, but it’s so hard! Even when I’m trying to take care of myself I find myself having to choose. Do I do yoga, get extra sleep or make juice? There really is limited time, it’s not just a feeling. Many times you do have to make hard choices. But if you can keep balance as the goal, you may not get everything in every day but you get enough of the right things in to make a difference. Balance is what I strive for – not perfection.
#152: Watching documentaries about marriage August 30, 2011
I tend to enjoy a good documentary. We watched one last weeked called Married in America 2. It was directed by Michaell Apted who was famous for the Up series which followed the lives of 14 British children since 1964. Married in Amerca followed 9 American married couples. I didn’t see Married in America but luckily Part 2 showed clips from the first one so you could get acquainted with the couples. Married In America 2 visits the couples after they’ve been married 5 years which is just about where we are now. Some of the couples had separated or divorced by year 5. Sad but true. It was fascinating listening to them talk about their marriages: what was hard, what was great. Real life is not just stranger than fiction, it’s often more interesting. People are just fun to watch. As you can see, I’m a bit obsessed with marriage. I feel like an Escher painting: a married couple watching married couples on tv.
#151: Memories of our wedding day August 29, 2011
For various reasons, I didn’t have a big church wedding. We got married at City Hall. It’s not the way I thought I would get married. It was a combination of things: we were older, my son was having a hard time with the marriage, we were mixed faith. It just made sense to do it that way. Everyone’s wedding is so different. Having said all that, ours was very special. We both teared up and felt such joy. It was a bright, sunny day and we spent the day together. Immediately after we had breakfast. My husband says that I got immediately bossy. That new wives’ sense of power. We got portraits taken at a studio We had lunch and then a sweet dinner at a favorite restaurant. We had bought a tiny wedding cake and ate that later. And oh yeah, this was a surprise to our families. After we got married we called everyone and told them. Some were angry. I know they wanted to be there. But we decided together that our elopement in town was what we wanted.
Sometimes I think we’ll hav a big anniversary party one year to celebrate with everyone. Or maybe we will continue to keep it private. Our wedding day was perfect for us and I will always cherish it.
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Our last romantic dinner was for our 4 year anniversary. We went to The Inn at Brookeville Farms on the recommendation of a good friend. Our anniversary is in late May so the weather was mild. It was a warm and sunny day and we went to dinner about 5. Nice and early, how I like it.
It’s a very quaint, quiet, relaxing place. The service was excellent and the food even better. They really catered to veganism. I’m not a strict vegan but when I want to be it’s nice to be somewhere that understands what that means and is happy to accomodate you.
It was a leisurely meal and we were able to spend time together and celebrate our marriage and being together. It won’t be the last time we visit and we may make it our anniversary “place.”
#149: Serving God Through Serving My Family August 25, 2011
I truly believe that I serve God each day through serving my family. The love and care I give to my husband, son and home is an act of love for God and the God in them. It is a way that I express my love for God and to be the woman that God wants me to be. I read today in The Word Among Us :
“God has plans for your life, plans for your good, plans to give you a future full of hope. (Jeremiah 29:11) He wants to involve you deeply in his plans, even when it looks like the same old job, the same old school routine, or the same old schedule of housework.”
When you infuse your ordinary activities with your love of God, they take on a new light. God is good that way. He enlightens everything. I’ve read a lot about Opus Dei. Opus Dei is a Catholic institution founded by Saint Josemaría Escrivá. The mission is to help people turn their work and daily activities into occasions for growing closer to God, for serving others, and for improving society. The Opus Dei website shares:
“It is in the midst of the most material things of the earth that we must sanctify ourselves, serving God and all mankind,” said St. Josemaría. The family, marriage, work – all of our activities – are opportunities for dealing with and imitating Jesus Christ, trying to practice charity, patience, humility, diligence, integrity, cheerfulness and all the other human and Christian virtues.”
It’s not easy to practice charity, humility and cheerfulness while grocery shopping, mopping and cleaning the bathroom, but it is another opportunity to lift your burdens to God. Another sacrifice you can make for all the sacrifices God has made for us.
We don’t really have date nights in the sense most people think of them. When I think of a date night I think of dressing up and going out for dinner or a movie, just the two of us. We spend a lot of time together but we don’t really have date nights. We go out for special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. Our date nights are spent at home usually. We are both big movie fans so we watch a lot of movies together. I think the point of date nights is spending undivided time together. You don’t have to get dressed up or spend money. As long as the two of you enjoy whatever activity you are doing and you spend time together, it counts. And it’s worth it.
#147: How cute he is with our cats August 24, 2011
My husband loves cats. When I met him he had two cats. He was so sweet and tender with them it made me fall for him even quicker. I love to see him pick them up, hold them close, and kiss them. One of our cats, Nylah, is his favorite. She sits beneath his desk while he’s working and then jumps up on his desk in front of the computer. He pets her, puts her down, and then she’s back again. This can go on quite a while.
Our other cat, Bella, is my favorite. Of course, she’s the crazy one. Why is it the insane animals always like me best? Walter loves her too of course and picks her up and kisses her as well. Our cats are sisters and we are grateful that they live with us. Pets add so much enjoyment to life!
I love to read. I wish I loved to clean. I definitely like a clean house. I really want to work towards cleaning more often. It’s like exercise: once you start, it’s not that bad. It’s getting started that’s the hard part. My technique is to wait until one area gets really bad and I then tell myself “You’ve got to take care of that.” And then it’s no cleaning until the next bad area materializes. Not the best plan.
I got some books on cleaning from the library last weekend. One was a Real Simple cleaning book. I proceeded to curl up on the couch and read it cover to cover. Mind you, I was reading, not cleaning. That’s the trouble with books sometimes. I will read them, but will I do them! Of course, I learned a few things. I need a squeegie for the shower doors. So now I will engage yet another of my passions – shopping! I just can’t win.
How do you manage to keep your house clean? Or do you manage?
#145: His love of cars August 22, 2011
Do all guys love cars? Or at least pay attention to them? My husband told me the other day that I couldn’t tell the difference between a Corvette and a Model T. That’s a bit of an exaggeration but I do admit that on more than one occasion I almost got into the wrong car. Hey, all tan cars look alike!
We have a Honda Accord and I can identify them. But I don’t know cars well because they are just not my thing. If I had unlimited money, I still don’t think I’d buy a luxury car. Take another subject: flowers. Now there’s something that interests me. I pay attention to flowers and I do know a Hydrangea from a Morning Glory!