I know I’m on a blog holiday but I couldn’t resist a short post on Valentine’s Day. This commercial always makes me smile. It reminds me of finding someone who just gets you. Someone you truly feel compatible with. That’s the way I feel about my husband. He is a good match for me. Happy Valentine’s Day! I hope you enjoy this cute ad as much as I do.
On Blogcation – Posts will resume on February 20th! February 13, 2012
I am on blogcation this week. See you next week!
#265: I didn’t start out a good wife February 10, 2012
I have a confession to make. I didn’t start out being a good wife. I am learning to be one. I am a ”good-wife-in-training”, so to speak. Being a good wife is a process. With God’s help and care I am on the road. Here are a few of the things it takes to be a good wife (in no particular order):
- submission to God
- submission to your husband
- hard work
You can work to become a good wife too! Just stay on the path and follow the light.
P.S. 100 more posts to go to get to 365 things I love about marriage!
#264: The Wife of Noble Character February 9, 2012
The wife of noble character that we find in Proverbs 31 has the following qualities:
- She has unusual character
- She is completely trustworthy
- She is hard-working
- She is wise
- She is generous
- She instructs faithfully
- She is godly
When I think of a wife of noble character and the ideal wife, I think of the Blessed Virgin Mary. She was giving, kind and loving. She was reserved and pleasant. She was peaceful and calm. She was humble yet confident. Most importantly she was godly and turned herself and her life over to God’s will with willingness and acceptance. This is the kind of woman I strive to be and I ask Our Lady to pray for me to the Lord our God that I am a godly wife and mother.
- The Nativity of Our Lord (intostillness.wordpress.com)
- [MaryVitamin] near the manger (deaconjohnspace.wordpress.com)
- The Proverb 31 Woman!! (shantadaniel.wordpress.com)
- The Spiritual Walk: My So-Called Life as a Proverbs 31 Wife (awritablelife.wordpress.com)
#263: Man Cave February 8, 2012
I’ve always been enthralled by the concept of a man cave. It just sounds interesting, doesn’t it? Caves are creepy and mysterious. Bats fly around in caves. They are symbols of both adventure and hiding.
What is a man cave exactly? Wikipedia describes a man cave as follows:
A man cave, sometimes a mantuary or manspace, is a male sanctuary, such as a specially equipped garage, spare bedroom, media room, den, or basement. It is not a cave but rather a metaphor describing a room inside the house, such as the basement or garage or attic or office, or outside the house such as a wood shed or tool room, where “guys can do as they please” without fear of upsetting any female sensibility about house decor or design.
My husband has the office variety of a man cave. My guess is that husbands fall into two camps: those who have office man caves, and those who have basement or garage sports-oriented man caves. I don’t know if my husband wants the basement type. Our living/family room is his sports center. That is where he watches games on his large flat screen t.v. The exception is that we mutually decided on the decor.
In his office, he has chosen the decor. That is the room that I stay out of. I rarely pick up his socks in there. That is the room where dishes may sit for a little while. It is where questionable decorative items live, if you want to call them that. For example, recently my husband took an empty plastic Folger’s coffee container from the recycling bin. He said he was going to use it to hold remote controls. Immediately my eyebrows raised up above where they usually sit on my face.
“Where?” I said.
“In my office,” he said, almost simultaneously.
“Oh,” I said, relieved. My eyebrows dropped back down to that comfortable place.
“You can do anything you want in your office,” I said.
Man caves make husbands and wives relax. Wives don’t like to hear that old plastic coffee containers will be displayed in their living rooms. Our living room is not fancy, but it is a few steps above plastic containers.
I like the idea that he has a sanctuary which in many ways boils down to a place he can go without me. I know myself well enough to know that I am a bit too much at times. In fact, sometimes think I might like a cave away from me, and I am me. I talk incessantly, I’m overly excitable, a bit hyper, silly, and a bit “all the way live.” That’s o.k., it takes all kinds to make a world. But I totally get that he needs a break from time to time.
He used to have a guest chair in his office. On the rare occasion (once or twice a day) when I visited his office, I used to have a place to sit down. I notice that the guest chair has been removed. Do you think that was intentional?
Wikipedia also states that:
Some psychologists claim that a man cave can provide refuge from stressful surroundings and be beneficial to marriage.
I tend to agree. Everyone should have a spot to call their own, where they can get away. My space is my office. I have my computer, my salt lamp, my vision board, music and books.
So, my husband has his office man cave, and I have my office. And everyone is happy!
What do you think of man caves? Is there a man cave in your home?
#262: Deceit February 7, 2012
My husband is sitting in his comfy chair in the bedroom watching the Hitchcock film Rear Window while I am getting ready for work. After I put away the iron and ironing board, I walk over to him and say, “You look lonely.” As I reach down to hug him he says, “Looks can be deceiving, can’t they.”
- Household Chores (misswhiplash.wordpress.com)
#261: Movie Mondays – Dream House February 6, 2012
Description (IMDb): Soon after moving into their seemingly idyllic new home, a family learns of a brutal crime committed against former residents of the dwelling.
Wife: I really wanted to like this movie. I enjoy mind-bending thrillers. In some ways the movie reminded me of Memento and Jacob’s Ladder except those were done well. When the movie ended, I felt jerked around. The movie didn’t take the time to tie up loose ends. I liked the actors, acting, cinematography. It was entertaining but lacking in the essential elements of a psychological thriller.
Husband: I thoroughly enjoyed this movie. I liked the suspense, the twists, and the character development. I look forward to buying it to have in my collection. I realize that many people didn’t care for this movie. But these are people who probably voted for George Bush twice.
Husband-Wife Compatibility Rating: 6.5*
Note: The husband rated this at 10 and the wife gave it a 3, for spite. (Ever seen the Seinfeld spite episode?) We watched this movie on Saturday night. At 5:30 a.m. we started discussing the movie and must have debated for 30 minutes. It’s funny how people want other people to agree with them. It’s kind of silly when you think about it. Some people like Vanilla and some like Chocolate. I like Chocolate and this movie was definitely Vanilla!
#260: Focus on the postive February 3, 2012
Writing this blog has actually improved my marriage (except for the occasional sharing too much). Because I focus on what’s right and going well in my marriage, I have more positive feelings about my marriage. In many ways what you see is what you get. If what you see is the good and the love, you feel good about your marriage and your spouse. You get more joy! You are what you eat. Bite into a big juicy positive view of your marriage.
#259: God’s Plan for Marriage February 2, 2012
Marriage matters! It is a private relationship with a spiritual and public significance. Marriage is between a man and a woman to give children a structure where they are created and nurtured, benefiting from the unique gifts of both a father and a mother. In marriage, a man and a woman are united so they become one flesh in sexual union. The common aim of marriage is procreation, creating a family, and the ripening of a relationship between two people. These purposes of marriage move towards love and away from treating a person as the means to an end.
Are you subordinating yourself to God and your spouse? Understanding why God created marriage will help you put your own desires about marriage into a bigger and greater context – the context of our Lord.
- #255: God’s Vision for Marriage (ilovethishusbandandwifestuff.com)
#258: Coffee Drama February 1, 2012
Last Saturday morning at 7 am I asked my husband if he wanted to go get coffee at a nearby coffee place near our house. I had purchased one of those Daily Deals coupons. I’ve had it for a few months and it was soon to expire. I was worried that it would go to waste.
“Can we go get coffee this morning at that coffee place?” I asked.
“Yeah, don’t you want to? Don’t you want coffee?”
“I thought you said we weren’t doing anything this weekend,” he said.
“Well, we’re not. I hardly think that getting coffee is doing something. You really don’t like doing anything. Besides the coupon is going to expire in 2 weeks. I’m not buying anymore coupons,” I whined.
“OK, let’s go. I don’t want it hanging over my head like a vulture. You got me feeling like I’m on death row in Texas waiting for the governor to call.”
And he says I’m a drama queen!