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365 THINGS I LOVE ABOUT BEING MARRIED!

#363: Movie Mondays – Love Comes Softly May 28, 2012

Cover of "Love Comes Softly"

Cover of Love Comes Softly

Year: 2003

Genre: Romance/Western/Drama

Description from www.IMDb.com: A young woman on her way to a new life in the 1800’s suddenly finds herself a widow. Now she must live with a recently widowed young man and his daughter. Can any of them find love again? 

Wife: For our last movie review, I wanted to choose a movie about marriage.  Husband suggested War of the Roses.  Really?  A cynical movie about divorce?  I don’t think so.  Instead, he agreed to review Love Comes Softly.  Directed by Michael Landon, Jr., this is one of my favorite movies.  I have secretly wanted to own the entire series and I am not a movie collector.  What do I love about it?  It is clean, engaging, sweet, and faith-based.  And, it’s a love story!  Kathryn Heigl is excellent as usual. My husband teases me about this movie.  He calls it “Love dies a slow and agonizing death.”  Yes, he is both cynical and funny. 

Husband: I liked the storyline.  The male lead was a good man.  He was God-fearing and had the correct priorities.  He was patient and he waited.  There were no explosions so I only gave it a 5.  

Husband-Wife Compatibility: 7.5 (Wife gave it a 10)    

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#362: The Rainbow and God’s promise May 27, 2012

 

I didn’t marry until I was 43.  I had almost lost hope.  I just want to tell you that love and marriage can happen to you.  Pray for it and if it is God’s will it will happen for you.

The rainbow is a symbol of God’s promises to us.

I will put my rainbow in the clouds to be a sign of my promise to the earth.

Genesis 9:13

God is great!  Halellujah!  Praise him!

 

#357: Tribute to a married couple – Ron and Jan May 22, 2012

This is a tribute to other married couples in general and to my cousins Ron and Jan in particular.  Here’s a picture from their 30th wedding anniversary party.  We were fortunate to be able to celebrate with them.  They have been a role model to me.  They are beautiful people separately and of course together.  I love you guys, wish you continued happiness and thank you for your example!  :)

 

#352: His honesty May 17, 2012

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My husband is honest with me – for better or worse.  Sometimes he is honest with me when I would prefer that he lie a bit. For example:

All in all, I prefer his honesty.  I can rely upon it and I trust him.

 

#343: Book Review – Sacred Marriage May 8, 2012

Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas had a profound effect on me.  The message is that God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy.  Marriage brings me happiness, but not always.  If you look to marriage only to make you happy, you will be disappointed.  Humans are lacking and we all have a hole inside, a loss, a yearning.  That lacking is supposed to be filled with God.  If we don’t fill it with God, we try to fill it with other things: shopping, food, power, alcohol, etc.  If we try to fill it with our spouse, no matter how wonderful they are, they will fail.  They too are sinners.  But if you fill that void with God, and have your spouse as a mate throughout your life, things will go much better.

The book looks at how we can use the challenges, joys, struggles, and celebrations of marriage to draw us closer to God and grow in Christian character.  It helps to see marriage as a kind of ministry, and a tough one.

“This is the reality of the human heart, the inevitability of two sinful people pledging to live together, with all their faults, for the rest of their lives.”

The book asks us to use the challenges of marriage as opportunities to learn more about God, to understand God more and to learn to love him more.  Marriage should push us to be more of service and to be less selfish.  Confronting our own selfishness has enormous spiritual value.  The focus should be on changing ourselves not our spouses.  It’s about spiritual growth and marriage is just the context.  It’s an excellent book.  Here’s a closing quote:

“Just as celibates use abstinence and religious hermits use isolation, we can use our marriage for the same purpose – to grow in our service, obedience, character, pursuit and love of God.”

Cover of "Sacred Marriage"

Cover of Sacred Marriage

 

#336: Being a nurturer May 1, 2012

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I am a nurturer.  This is helpful as a wife and mother.  I like taking care of people and animals.  Luckily I get to do that a lot in taking care of my husband, son and 2 cats.  I am truly concerned for their health and well-being.  I pray for them and try to help them in any way I can.

 

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#324: He’s a Mama’s Boy April 19, 2012

My husband really loved his Mom.  They always say, marry a man who loves his mother.  It tells you how he feels about women and shows how he’ll treat women.  My husband’s Mom passed away but of course he still loves her.  I love her too even though I never got the chance to meet her.  I love her because my husband does, because she raised a great guy, and because she was a loving and lovely Christian woman.

 

#320: Cleanliness is next to Godliness April 15, 2012

Therefore, having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all defilement of flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.

2 Corinthians 7:1

Although most of the Bible references to cleanliness deal with spiritual over physical cleanliness, I know that God wants me to keep a clean house.  With all the things the Proverbs 31 wife is doing, I know that when “She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks,” some of these tasks involve cleaning her home.  Cleaning is not something I terribly enjoy but I know that while I’m doing it it’s not so bad and I love having a clean house and how it looks and smells after I clean it.  Looking into the future, I see myself focusing on de-cluttering and organizing and then cleaning will become a focus.  Of course, it’s all about balance. Cleaning is just one of the essential things in keeping up a home.  There’s also shopping, cooking, organizing, decorating, yard work, finances, etc.  All of these things need to be done.  We all excel in one or another but it all needs to get done.  I pray that I have the discipline to do all that I can and that my hands bring  balance, joy, order and harmony to my home.

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"N-R-O-G super suds housecleaning week" - NARA - 515093 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

#317: Apologizing April 12, 2012

One thing I love about marriage is apologizing. It’s a little like broccoli and exercise. It might not be the most fun and appealing thing but after you do it you know it was good for you and the right thing to do. I used to apologize while still really arguing. For example, “I’m sorry but I did that because I’ve been so tired lately.”  It’s a good idea to leave buts out of an apology. They bring the focus back to you instead of on the other person. The whole point of apology is that you have hurt, offended, or wronged someone. You know what you did and you want to tell them. So apologize when you are ready. Know what you are apologizing for. It’s ok to just say sorry. But it’s even better to be specific. “I’m sorry for ______.”

Afterwards you may feel better but not necessarily. You may still be mad, either at yourself or the other person.  That’s ok.  But as soon as you recognize that you did wrong and how, and as soon as you can (you might have to push yourself a little) say you are sorry. Afterwards you will at least feel like you did the right thing and have taken a step towards holiness. Don’t expect anything in return from your apology. You might get a thank you, you might not. That’s not your problem or concern. You do the right thing and leave it at that.

I'm Sorry.

I'm Sorry. (Photo credit: Brisbane Falling)

 

 
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