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#316: My husband is the CEO of our family April 11, 2012

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Kennedy marriage (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

He’s the CEO (Chief Executive Officer) – head of the family, leader

He’s the CTO (Chief Transportation Officer) – he drives us around

He’s the CSO (Chief Security Officer) – he’s the protector and in charge of safety

He’s the CTO (Chief Technology Officer)  – he buys the computers, defrags my system (whatever that is!)

I am the COO (Chief Operating Officer) – I get a lot of the “stuff” done (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.)

I am the CFO (Chief Financial Officer) – I keep the budget and pay the bills

I am the CBO (Chief Beauty Officer) – in charge of decorating and organizing (ok, I made that one up!)

And finally, I am definitely the CIO (Chief Information Officer) with all my talking!


#312: Being a lady April 7, 2012

Family of Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge

Family of Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Make sure you are acting like a lady.  Acting like a lady means you behave using the manners your grandmother would be proud of.  Men should treat you with the respect they would show their mother or sister.”

How to Find A Husband Following God’s Will

As a wife, you should carry yourself as a lady.  Although I dress modestly, I do have to continue to work on acting like a lady and not using profanity or being crude in any way.  When I was in third grade my best friend and I loved being gross.  Because I am silly and like to make people laugh, the clown in me is always wanting to please.  I have to remind myself that as a grown woman, and an aspiring lady, I need to leave childish things behind. We are all works in process.    Here’s to being a lady!

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.

1 Corinthians 13:11


#310: Honor April 5, 2012

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I promised to love, honor and respect my husband.  How do you honor someone?  Here are a few ways:

  1. Speak well of them both in and out of their presence
  2. Do kind things for them
  3. Pay tribute to them (like writing a blog about them) :)
  4. Look up to them
  5. Defer to them
  6. Treat them with respect

Interesting that love, respect and kindness are so

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intertwined.  Almost like a braid.


#309: Respect April 4, 2012

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Respect is important in a marriage.  Love seems to take center stage but respect has to be best supporting actor.  My stepfather used to say that he’d rather be respected than loved.  If I had to choose, I’d choose love.  But the point is, you shouldn’t have to choose.  Especially in marriage.  I respect my husband as a leader, as a man, as my husband. And he respects me as a woman and his wife.

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A sign commanding silence and respect at Arlington National Cemetery, Washington, the District. (Author: David Bjorgen) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)



#302: Spring in our yard March 28, 2012

It’s time to start working on the yard again.  I picked leaves that had gotten caught in the bushes out of the shrubs.  I still have more to do.  I don’t like that job.  My favorite is planting flowers.  My hydrangea that we planted last summer is on its way back!  I love Spring!  Renewal, birth, and the resurrection of our Lord!


#301: Humility March 27, 2012

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Humility is a weak area for me and I have asked God to help me with it.  One of the things I love about life is that you get to keep growing, improving, and changing.  I really want to become a more humble person.  First I need to understand what humility means.  Then I need to practice it.  I am in the learning phase now and am starting to practice what I’ve learned.

(becoming) a woman for Him just did an excellent post on humility called (becoming) closer to God through Proverbs 6, part 2 haughty eyes.  You can check it out here.  She says that the first thing God hates is haughty or proud eyes.  She asks us to look at our behaviors such as taking pride in your gifts and accomplishments, or feeling that you deserve certain things.  We are nothing without God and all that we have He gave to us.  If we boast it should be about our knowledge of God, God’s strength in our weakness, and what God did for us through the cross.

Learn This: A personal development site for passionately learning productivity, career,
leadership and life improvement tips posted 50 Ways to Be More Humble and to Act Humbly.  I highlighted the ones that really spoke to me and let me tell you, I did a lot of highlighting.  Here are the ones I really need to work on:

  • Listen more than you talk
  • Count to 3 before adding to a conversation to make sure the other person is done
  • You are God’s creation not your own
  • Don’t boast about your achievements, let others recognize them instead
  • Since winning isn’t everything, you don’t have to win
  • Remember that you are a sinner (in other words, you are no better or worse than anyone else)
  • Know how to accept praise with a simple thank you, don’t elaborate on it or talk more about it
  • Serve others and not yourself first
  • Learn from and model the life of the most humble teachers in history (Jess, Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Buddha, etc.)

How to humble yourself in five easy lessons was also helpful.  It begins with “Humility is a tough thing to get.  The minute you think you got it, you lose it.”  Amen.  Pearls from this post include:

  • Take responsibility for your own sin for not doing so is proof of pride
  • Don’t forget who you are: a sinner, not God
  • To humble yourself you must do what is right, without regard for how insignificant that action or your position  may appear
  • to be humble does not mean feeling inferior, you can be confident in Christ
  • you can be a confident Christian – your faith in Jesus Christ makes you one of God’s children
  • Learn to control your tongue

Inner Frontier: Cultivating Spiritual Presence, also has a post on humility.  It begins with these two powerful messages:

There is a good description of humility:

“The humble, unassuming person immediately puts us at ease.  We can just relax and be ourselves in their presence, a zone of no competition, no judgment, and no fear.  The heart of the humble knows love.  Humility realizes that we are all in the same boat, all human, all equally children of the same God.”

If you struggle with humility as well, I hope these posts will help you as you strive to be ever more humble.


#299: 4 simple money tips March 25, 2012

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ceramic piggy bank (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

As a wife, I make many decisions as one of the stewards of our financial resources.  I am not an expert on money but I have a few tips based on what I’ve learned.  A few books that have been helpful to me are Dave Ramsey‘s Financial Peace Revisited, Michelle Singletary’s The Power to Prosper, and The One Minute Millionaire.  Two books I’d like to read are Rich Dad, Poor Dad and something by Warren Buffett.  Although Warren Buffet‘s book The Essays of Warren Buffet: Lessons for Corporate America isn’t advice for the average person, I want to read it anyway to glean some wisdom.

Here are 4 simple things I have learned about money that I haven’t been able to fully apply successfully.  These things are likely not new to you either but I bet you’ll agree that the difficulty lies in actually doing these things.

1. Spend Less.

Be frugal.  Buy only what you need.  Look for bargains and sales.  Stay out of stores.  That includes online stores!  Shopping should not be a hobby.  Spend within your means.  Simplify.  You don’t need all that stuff.  Also, every penny does count.  I used to buy new books on Amazon, even if the used books were 2 or 3 dollars less.  I would say to myself “Well it’s only 2 or 3 dollars.  I may as well have a new one.”  Now I say, “I can save 2-3 dollars.  Used books are fine!”

2. Save more. 

If you are not saving, start.  Save something.  You can start small.  Saving should be something you do your entire life. It should be a way of life.  And don’t dip into your savings except for emergencies.  No, a shoe sale is not an emergency.  Keep your savings growing.  Have a green thumb!  :)

3. Ask God.

Ask God for prosperity.  The good Lord provides and He will give you what you need.  Thank God for what He gives you.  Accept God’s will.

4. Give!

Give to family.  Give to friends.  Give to the poor. Give to strangers.  Give to charities.  Give to your church.  Give, give give!

Don’t get hung up on where you are.  Start doing the right thing and pat yourself on the back for how far you’ve come.  You can do it!


#295: My Wedding Ring March 21, 2012

“Think of a wedding ring. In itself, it is just a piece of jewelry. But to the man or woman wearing it, that ring is a public statement of love, commitment and faithfulness.”

The Word Among Us Lent 2012

I love this quote.  I look at my wedding ring often.  It is a reminder of my marriage, my love, my husband and our commitment.  It’s like a hug around my finger and my life.  Security.

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#291: St. Patty, Patron Saint of My Marriage March 17, 2012

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St. Patrick has always brought good luck, love and blessings to my marriage.  Here are just a few things:

1) I first returned to the Catholic faith of my upbringing about 7 or 8 years ago.  I started attending St. Patrick’s church in downtown DC.  It’s right near my office.  I started praying for a husband in that very church.

2) A few years later, I had my first date with my husband.  On St. Patrick’s Day.

3) A year ago, we bought our first house.  The house closed.  On St. Patrick’s Day.

So it’s not a ton of things, but they are a few very significant things.  I believe that St. Patrick watches over my marriage.  Who knows what else he has in store for my marriage? :)

Statue of St. Patrick in Aughagower, County Mayo

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St. Patrick’s Prayer for the Faithful

May the Strength of God guide us.
May the Power of God preserve us.
May the Wisdom of God instruct us.
May the Hand of God protect us.
May the Way of God direct us.
May the Shield of God defend us.
May the Angels of God guard us.
- Against the snares of the evil one.

May Christ be with us!
May Christ be before us!
May Christ be in us,
Christ be over all!

May Thy Grace, Lord,
Always be ours,
This day, O Lord, and forevermore. Amen.


#283: Happy Birthday Walter! March 9, 2012

Dearest Walter,

Here is your virtual birthday card.  You will get a paper one too.  :) I love you with all my heart.  Today is a very special day for me because this is the day when you were born!  The day my husband was born.  I believe that God made you for me, and me for you.  Although I wasn’t yet born, God gave you life knowing that one day I would be your wife.  I know, it’s not all about me but being your wife is an important thing.

I hope you know how much you mean to me.  This blog is just one of the ways I show my love for you.  I hope you have a great year and I will be there by your side, God willing.

Much, much love,


Happy Birthday

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