My husband really loved his Mom. They always say, marry a man who loves his mother. It tells you how he feels about women and shows how he’ll treat women. My husband’s Mom passed away but of course he still loves her. I love her too even though I never got the chance to meet her. I love her because my husband does, because she raised a great guy, and because she was a loving and lovely Christian woman.
#320: Cleanliness is next to Godliness April 15, 2012
Therefore, having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all defilement of flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.
2 Corinthians 7:1
Although most of the Bible references to cleanliness deal with spiritual over physical cleanliness, I know that God wants me to keep a clean house. With all the things the Proverbs 31 wife is doing, I know that when “She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks,” some of these tasks involve cleaning her home. Cleaning is not something I terribly enjoy but I know that while I’m doing it it’s not so bad and I love having a clean house and how it looks and smells after I clean it. Looking into the future, I see myself focusing on de-cluttering and organizing and then cleaning will become a focus. Of course, it’s all about balance. Cleaning is just one of the essential things in keeping up a home. There’s also shopping, cooking, organizing, decorating, yard work, finances, etc. All of these things need to be done. We all excel in one or another but it all needs to get done. I pray that I have the discipline to do all that I can and that my hands bring balance, joy, order and harmony to my home.
- Cleanliness (createamelody.com)
- Spring Cleaning Shortcuts (edshort.wordpress.com)
- Spring Cleaning for Busy People (hungrylindsay.wordpress.com)
- Yes! Your Laundry-Room Makeover (timesunion.com)
- Decluttering the Laundry Area (simplerestyle.com)
- Cleaning Schedule Revised (easygoingorganizer.wordpress.com)
- Spring Cleaning For Your Bedroom (dormiamattress.wordpress.com)
- Being a Housewife (wifelyperfection.wordpress.com)
- Green Clean Your Home with These Non-Toxic Tips (mommajam.wordpress.com)
- Great Ways to Go Green During Spring Cleaning (talkingaboutgreen.com)
- Spring Cleaning with Mother Nature (greenling.com)
- If Cleanliness Is Next to Godliness, Where Does Perfume Fit In? (bellasugar.com)
#317: Apologizing April 12, 2012
One thing I love about marriage is apologizing. It’s a little like broccoli and exercise. It might not be the most fun and appealing thing but after you do it you know it was good for you and the right thing to do. I used to apologize while still really arguing. For example, “I’m sorry but I did that because I’ve been so tired lately.” It’s a good idea to leave buts out of an apology. They bring the focus back to you instead of on the other person. The whole point of apology is that you have hurt, offended, or wronged someone. You know what you did and you want to tell them. So apologize when you are ready. Know what you are apologizing for. It’s ok to just say sorry. But it’s even better to be specific. “I’m sorry for ______.”
Afterwards you may feel better but not necessarily. You may still be mad, either at yourself or the other person. That’s ok. But as soon as you recognize that you did wrong and how, and as soon as you can (you might have to push yourself a little) say you are sorry. Afterwards you will at least feel like you did the right thing and have taken a step towards holiness. Don’t expect anything in return from your apology. You might get a thank you, you might not. That’s not your problem or concern. You do the right thing and leave it at that.
- 5 Ways To Apologize (loveimpact2012.wordpress.com)
#312: Being a lady April 7, 2012
“Make sure you are acting like a lady. Acting like a lady means you behave using the manners your grandmother would be proud of. Men should treat you with the respect they would show their mother or sister.”
As a wife, you should carry yourself as a lady. Although I dress modestly, I do have to continue to work on acting like a lady and not using profanity or being crude in any way. When I was in third grade my best friend and I loved being gross. Because I am silly and like to make people laugh, the clown in me is always wanting to please. I have to remind myself that as a grown woman, and an aspiring lady, I need to leave childish things behind. We are all works in process. Here’s to being a lady!
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.
1 Corinthians 13:11
#310: Honor April 5, 2012
I promised to love, honor and respect my husband. How do you honor someone? Here are a few ways:
- Speak well of them both in and out of their presence
- Do kind things for them
- Pay tribute to them (like writing a blog about them)
- Look up to them
- Defer to them
- Treat them with respect
Interesting that love, respect and kindness are sointertwined. Almost like a braid.
- Friday Proverb – Honoring the Lord (fellowshipofminds.wordpress.com)
#309: Respect April 4, 2012
Respect is important in a marriage. Love seems to take center stage but respect has to be best supporting actor. My stepfather used to say that he’d rather be respected than loved. If I had to choose, I’d choose love. But the point is, you shouldn’t have to choose. Especially in marriage. I respect my husband as a leader, as a man, as my husband. And he respects me as a woman and his wife.
#302: Spring in our yard March 28, 2012
It’s time to start working on the yard again. I picked leaves that had gotten caught in the bushes out of the shrubs. I still have more to do. I don’t like that job. My favorite is planting flowers. My hydrangea that we planted last summer is on its way back! I love Spring! Renewal, birth, and the resurrection of our Lord!
#301: Humility March 27, 2012
Humility is a weak area for me and I have asked God to help me with it. One of the things I love about life is that you get to keep growing, improving, and changing. I really want to become a more humble person. First I need to understand what humility means. Then I need to practice it. I am in the learning phase now and am starting to practice what I’ve learned.
(becoming) a woman for Him just did an excellent post on humility called (becoming) closer to God through Proverbs 6, part 2 haughty eyes. You can check it out here. She says that the first thing God hates is haughty or proud eyes. She asks us to look at our behaviors such as taking pride in your gifts and accomplishments, or feeling that you deserve certain things. We are nothing without God and all that we have He gave to us. If we boast it should be about our knowledge of God, God’s strength in our weakness, and what God did for us through the cross.
Learn This: A personal development site for passionately learning productivity, career,
leadership and life improvement tips posted 50 Ways to Be More Humble and to Act Humbly. I highlighted the ones that really spoke to me and let me tell you, I did a lot of highlighting. Here are the ones I really need to work on:
- Listen more than you talk
- Count to 3 before adding to a conversation to make sure the other person is done
- You are God’s creation not your own
- Don’t boast about your achievements, let others recognize them instead
- Since winning isn’t everything, you don’t have to win
- Remember that you are a sinner (in other words, you are no better or worse than anyone else)
- Know how to accept praise with a simple thank you, don’t elaborate on it or talk more about it
- Serve others and not yourself first
- Learn from and model the life of the most humble teachers in history (Jess, Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Buddha, etc.)
How to humble yourself in five easy lessons was also helpful. It begins with “Humility is a tough thing to get. The minute you think you got it, you lose it.” Amen. Pearls from this post include:
- Take responsibility for your own sin for not doing so is proof of pride
- Don’t forget who you are: a sinner, not God
- To humble yourself you must do what is right, without regard for how insignificant that action or your position may appear
- to be humble does not mean feeling inferior, you can be confident in Christ
- you can be a confident Christian – your faith in Jesus Christ makes you one of God’s children
- Learn to control your tongue
Inner Frontier: Cultivating Spiritual Presence, also has a post on humility. It begins with these two powerful messages:
- “Blessed are the meek“
- Full of myself, I leave no room for God.
There is a good description of humility:
“The humble, unassuming person immediately puts us at ease. We can just relax and be ourselves in their presence, a zone of no competition, no judgment, and no fear. The heart of the humble knows love. Humility realizes that we are all in the same boat, all human, all equally children of the same God.”
If you struggle with humility as well, I hope these posts will help you as you strive to be ever more humble.
- The Source of Humility that Leads to Unity (jasoncrandall.org)
- True Humility (beingrebekah.com)
- Are Confidence and Humility Opposites? (everydayawe.com)
- Healing and Humility (bibletweets.wordpress.com)
- Humility Often Overlooked and Greatly Needed (spilledcookies.com)
- Spazzing My Way to Humility (faithfullyflawed.com)
- A Prayer from the Heart (bibletweets.wordpress.com)
- “Whoever humbles himself will be exalted” (worryisuseless.wordpress.com)
#299: 4 simple money tips March 25, 2012
As a wife, I make many decisions as one of the stewards of our financial resources. I am not an expert on money but I have a few tips based on what I’ve learned. A few books that have been helpful to me are Dave Ramsey‘s Financial Peace Revisited, Michelle Singletary’s The Power to Prosper, and The One Minute Millionaire. Two books I’d like to read are Rich Dad, Poor Dad and something by Warren Buffett. Although Warren Buffet‘s book The Essays of Warren Buffet: Lessons for Corporate America isn’t advice for the average person, I want to read it anyway to glean some wisdom.
Here are 4 simple things I have learned about money that I haven’t been able to fully apply successfully. These things are likely not new to you either but I bet you’ll agree that the difficulty lies in actually doing these things.
1. Spend Less.
Be frugal. Buy only what you need. Look for bargains and sales. Stay out of stores. That includes online stores! Shopping should not be a hobby. Spend within your means. Simplify. You don’t need all that stuff. Also, every penny does count. I used to buy new books on Amazon, even if the used books were 2 or 3 dollars less. I would say to myself “Well it’s only 2 or 3 dollars. I may as well have a new one.” Now I say, “I can save 2-3 dollars. Used books are fine!”
2. Save more.
If you are not saving, start. Save something. You can start small. Saving should be something you do your entire life. It should be a way of life. And don’t dip into your savings except for emergencies. No, a shoe sale is not an emergency. Keep your savings growing. Have a green thumb!
3. Ask God.
Ask God for prosperity. The good Lord provides and He will give you what you need. Thank God for what He gives you. Accept God’s will.
Give to family. Give to friends. Give to the poor. Give to strangers. Give to charities. Give to your church. Give, give give!
Don’t get hung up on where you are. Start doing the right thing and pat yourself on the back for how far you’ve come. You can do it!